How independent women can be in a relationship
His encouragement gave me
confidence. I always felt comfortable to speak my mind and share how I was
feeling in any setting, and I had no problem standing my ground and having an
independent mind. But this mentality always made me believe that I was too
independent to be in a relationship.
I used to believe that in
order for me to succeed in anything I couldn’t be in a relationship. Or when I
was in a relationship I thought my partner needed to work under my schedule and
accommodate to my ways—wild, right? I sound like a controlling and unrealistic
person!
Another reason why I felt
that way was because I was so career-oriented that I believed I had to choose
between either lifestyle: free from other commitments than work or held back in
life by a relationship. Because of this mentality I was ignorant of how a true
healthy relationship worked. While I
thought I was being realistic, I was really just being selfish and unloving. I
couldn’t believe that my dreams and goals would work in a relationship.
So how can independent women
be in a relationship? Honestly, I think they just need to find the right man. Once
they find the right man who can love every thing about them, including their
dreams and goals, then they’ll know how to work with them through healthy
communication. Find someone who can understand you, who can encourage you, and
who can motivate you.
The key to a healthy
relationship is to have healthy communication. You need to be honest about what
you want before you get into a serious relationship. You need to listen to what
the other wants. You need to compromise. Compromising
really shows that you’re serious about the relationship and that you love one
another.
Like I’ve said before, it’s not always about you. But just as true that is for you, it’s also
true for the person you’re in a relationship with. Culture paints such a false picture that when you’re in a relationship
or when you’re married that you completely lose who you are, that you’re not
your own person. I used to believe that lie, but now I have more confidence
and feel more as an individual being in a relationship.
You learn new things about
yourself when you’re in a relationship because someone is frankly telling you
how you are. You see sides of yourself that you didn’t know you had, you
explore new feelings you didn’t know you could have, you see how much you can love
someone, and you can experience life in a fun and different way.
Lastly, have a relationship
with purpose. Instead of dating just to date and messing with another’s
feelings, it’s best to know where a relationship is going; otherwise it gets messy. If you’re dating just
to date you’re not only just wasting your time, you’re wasting another person’s
time and can ultimately hurt them. Even
if you don’t stay in a person’s future, you’ll always be in their past.
Don’t be selfish; don’t try
to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t
look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.
Be devoted to
one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.
Edited April 2021
What a great line: Even if you don’t stay in a person’s future, you’ll always be in their past.
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