To love and to cherish: One year later
A year ago today my husband and I made promises to one another. We promised to have and to hold one another: for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance, and thereto we pledged our love.
This past year flew by as fast as the Flash. In reality, this year is just a speck compared to eternity, but this time has been fruitful. It was the beginning of a strong union, with God's love as its foundation. Our promises; our vows, will impact the generations to come after us. Our marriage is not in vain.
We chose one another a year ago today. We made strong, binding promises, recognized by God and the state of New York.
We are so glad we married when we did. This past year has come with its challenges, moments of strength, weakness, love, passion, joy, and peace.
There's something so special when a man and a woman agree on the covenant of marriage, in front of many witnesses, and wear a symbol of that bond on their finger.
Marriage allows for true sharpening of one's character. I have learned so much about myself in this past year because of my husband's attentive eyes and great discernment. His character has definitely encouraged me to grow in certain areas of my life and I am so grateful for that. We have built our home together. We are not one against the other, we are a team. When the waves rise, we ride them together.
Since this year has gone by so quickly I have learned not to take time for granted, and to truly cherish every moment with my husband. It makes me stop and reflect what words I can choose to say. I can say something that will build him up and affirm him, or say something that will be manipulative and try to control him — ultimately belittling him.
I choose to remember my love for him, and his love for me. I choose to remember the promises we made. I promised to cherish him — for better or worse.
Enjoy your marriage! You made the decision to spend the rest of your lives together. Why not put in the work? Yes, times will get hard, but the decision of choosing one another has already been made. Now you're only left with deciding together what the next choices you will make for the rest of your lives.
Love never fails.
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
— Proverbs 27:17
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
— Ecclesiastes 4:12
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like a decay in his bones.
— Proverbs 12:4