The bad habit we do without knowing
People love the drama, they love to judge, and they enjoy to put others down in order to make themselves feel better about themselves. Even if you're not the one gossiping with your own words listening to gossip is just as guilty.
We always feel better about ourselves when we take eyes off of our problems and onto another's. Let's be honest here, we all believe we're better than everyone else at times. We all believe our ways of doing things are the best ways and our thinking just makes more sense. I used to complain to people "why can't people just think like me?" when I would disagree with a person's opinions or mindsets. I didn't realize at the time just how arrogant that was of me and a friend of mine used to mock me with that statement. I just believed that arrogant thought, but that was wrong of me. I'm glad people don't think like me!
I can be judgy, I can be snobby, I can sit on a high horse at times. But hey, at least I'm aware and I want to change that! I thank God that I am changing and removing that part of my old-self. I pray for mercy and grace everyday so I can see people with sweeter eyes. The Lord has softened my eyes and my heart to love others for all that they are. I now see people and find it so hard not to love them. I love people now! I was that emo kid that liked to think that I hated everyone.
God has also blessed me with the most amazing, non-judgmental man in the entire world. I love my fiancé's heart so much. He is so caring, sweet, and tender to others. He doesn't judge and he hates gossip. If I begin to sound like I'm gossiping he just stops me and says "ok, this is gossip," then I'll stop. He keeps me so accountable in the best kind of way: with love and seeking peace.
Gossiping causes division and it makes you look untrustworthy. How can you trust to tell a person something in confidence when that person likes to gossip about another person with you? Trust me, if they're doing it about another person they're definitely doing it about you with another. A gossip is just a two-faced; they're not the same person with everyone else. This may all sound harsh but gossip is just as harsh. It breaks relationships, it offends, it hurts, and it's ugly.
Instead, use your words to lift people up. We're all sensitive human beings whether we show it or not. We have emotions, we feel pain, and to hear that others are talking about us hurts. The Bible is true where it says to treat others the way you would like to be treated (Luke 6:31).
Cover one another, express what you admire about a person, and share what makes that person special to you. If you really can't think of anything nice then you really don't know that person that well, hence, you shouldn't be talking about them at all!
Have compassion and know that you really are not better or higher than anyone. Instead, the Bible says to humble yourself. We are to see that we are not higher than anyone. We are to put others above us, before us, and really just put pride aside.
My goal here is to bring light to something that's naturally accepted in society today but is wrong for the heart. It is possible not to gossip, and give yourself a break if you're trying to stop. Being aware of it is the first step. It may cause strife in friendships too if a friend wants to gossip but you don't want to. They'll feel like they have nothing else to talk about, but that just shows the heart of the person and what that relationship was centered around.
There are so many movements of anti-bullying across the nation and I believe it all starts with gossip. When a group of people would join just to make fun of a person and spread their business or rumors the hurting begins.
Let's be kind! We know that's how we would like to be treated.
Don't be selfish; don't try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.
A gossip betrays confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.