Why so serious?
My fiancé can always lighten the mood when I'm so serious. I like to be serious, assertive, aware, and I take things literally--yes, literally all the time. If I come out short with him or coarse, he tilts his head and says "do me a favor, just bite it right off, here, bite my head off." It never fails to make me laugh! He knows how to work with me to fix my attitude, but with love that brings a joyous moment.
He now has a term for those moments: annoyed fits. Like a child has a tantrum, I get annoyed. Although I'm not screaming like a child, throwing myself on the floor, or making a scene, I'm having a fit. I roll my eyes, pause, and give a look that is passive aggressive enough to turn your good mood off. Why so serious? It's a pride thing.
Feeling like you're better than a person or a situation, feeling entitled, feeling like everyone else is wrong and you're right, feeling like your way is the best way. You are wrong; those thoughts are so wrong.
We are all so different. We think differently, we feel differently about situations, some of us are more sensitive than others, and some of us don't have a problem with letting things go. But when we have a huge sense of pride that clouds our judgements and darkens our hearts, that's a problem.
A person's pride can kill any mood. You're labeled as the party pooper because you can't let your hair down, let people be, and just join the fun.
I've come a long way with how I would like situations to be. I really just had a problem with needing control. Prideful people feel the need to control people, situations, or plans. We can't change or control everything. But good news, we can change ourselves and have self-control.
Feeling above others doesn't show love to others. In fact, it's not love at all.
For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.
— Luke 18:14
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.
— Proverbs 11:2